Rumors

To think one could assume he/she knows the a person just by hearing some opinions from others, it just doesn't make sense. To know a person, without really spending time with the person, just by mere words, now, that's ridiculous.

These "opinions from others" may just be words, but bare in mind, words sometimes can prove to more powerful than any weaponry, yet, action speak louder than words. So, my friends, to really know a person, I think, one should really spend time with the person, get to know him. And, I find out that most of the time, the person's actions does speak louder than the words(rumors).

To judge a person, I'd say NEVER judge a person. My brother once told me:" Never be the judge of others, you are not him". Although he told me not in this circumstance, yet, I can still put it in use in my daily life. Yes, who are we to judge them? Are you perfect? Nobody is, so, stop being a hypocrite and start making yourself a better person. Sometimes I wonder, people can talk bad about others all the time, when can they talk bad about themselves? Sometimes, looking in a mirror often doesn't mean that you're narcissistic, look in a mirror to know who you are, both good and bad.

Truth is, I myself, have heard a lot of rumors regarding me. Surprisingly, I didn't get mad, not one bit. Some of the rumors are so bizarre, that I almost believed it myself. I would think, am I really like what they are describing me? Then, I laughed. I find this all very amusing. To think that some stranger I never talked to would know so much about me, in fact, judging on the words he used, know me more than I know myself. Now, that is funny! Now, to all rumor-givers, please forward your comments about me to me. Don't worry, I won't bite =P.

I know there are a lot of rumors about me going on outside, never good ones. Yet, I've learned not to care that much about what people think about me. I would do things I want to, not offending morality, not against the law, and what I think is right. My mom told me once (translation from mandarin) : " Their mouth is born theirs, whatever they wanna say, let them, we just do our part." That brings me to this, if we spend most of our time worrying about what people think of us, won't we be the puppets of their will, indirectly? Be yourself always, take advice from others, wisely and I think a lot of things will go better.

I admit, sometimes a little bit of comment about others in a form of a rumor can be funny. Yet, I always leave the comments at the table. I mean we had our laughs, who knows for real it is true or not, so just leave it there. I can't stop more rumors from spreading but I'll do my part as to stop any rumor that reached me. I bear them in mind, and I search for the truth myself. Nothing is more assuring than what I experienced myself. =]

Lastly, even if you trust someone completely, and he tells you some rumor about a person, would you still believe it? For me, I won't. As, there're too many uncertainties. Example, he might be seeing things from a different point of view, he might hear things from others and maybe he just hates him=]. But, when a guy hates the other, it doesn't mean that I must hate the other guy too. Approach the other guy, know him for yourself, nothing is more assuring than being able to know him yourself.

Guys, stop rumors. We are still human beings, we are not perfect. Look in a mirror and improve ourselves before we comment about others.=]

"Words, they kill. Words, they heal"

Holiday

Holiday mode...off for 1 weeks=P

But then, a little update about my life. Wow! This will be short=P

Well, lets start with my relationship status, as many of my friends would wan to know. Hmm...It started really complicated, things got real messy, I have to make a choice which I won't repeat a second time in my life. Its torture. For those who dont understand how it feels, they would say I am lucky. Well, I hereby say that its not all fun and games, its really mental torture. Then, decision made, things got simpler. We were together again, we were happy, thought everything has been settled. Yet, problems are still there. Well, might as well try to solve it=D.

Other than my relationship problem, others seem to go well. I am having my holiday a lot better than I thought. For your information, I thought I would spend at least half of my holidays in front of the computer. Luckily, I didn't. Thanks to all my friends, and of course my family. My appetite seems to be back also.=] It has been a nightmare for me since I cant what I want. My stomach seemed to be protesting against me for the past few weeks. At least now I'm back, eating all along the way! hahaha^^

One more thing, something came in mind, rumors. About this, this will be the next post. For now, holiday!!=D

Ok.. that's a little bit update about my life, more "useful" posts will come after these 1 week of holidays. *have to admit I'm quite lazy* See you guys in 1 week=]

The Past,The Present and The Future

We live in the Present,we look into the past and we look upon the future. "Whats today but yesterday's tomorrow?" It took me awhile to understand the message this sentence truly brings. Well, let me know your opinion, for I am not sure yet=]

Yesterday, The Past. For a long while, when I was 15, I was living in my past, being stuck in a mud of my own confusions. Then, I had a breakthrough. Why should I live in my past? It doesn't do me any good, nor does it solve anything. It barely heals, instead it hurts more. Why did I waste my time? Cause I wasn't mature enough to understand this: My heart is filled with the past I cant move on and enjoy "the GIFT",the present, or even to work for my all-so-promising future. There's no help crying over split milk. So, why don't we figure something out to clean the mess? So, I moved on. I think this helped me through my recent happening. I am not saying we should forget our past. I am saying, we should look into the past, and learn from the mistakes we made. I am saying, we should keep all the laughters, the memories in our hearts, think back, and laugh/smile again=]

Today,the Gift, few can really appreciate a gift from others. It makes sense, as few can really appreciate the Present. Most people tend to always hope for the future or moping around the past. Today, is a Gift, use it wisely, to clean the mess you made or got yourself into in the past. Use it wisely, to work for the future you always dream about. Thats why its a Gift, for me, its a gift of--chance! Most people took the Gift for granted, not-knowing how to appreciate it. I, for one, has thrown away too many of this Gift, blankly hoping things would just happen in my way. Appreciate what you have now, you'll never take back what you did, so, work to make it up. Appreciate what you have now, you'll never know what will happen in the future, so, work your best for a better future=]

Tomorrow, the Mysterious. Many may look upon for it full of expectations. BUT, be warned, with more expectations, the heavier the fall may be, IF, the future doesn't meet. Yet, If the future meets your expectations, surely, you will be ecstatic about it. So, to make your expectations be fulfilled, work for it, don't wait for it. The Future, would be the hardest to achieve great success as one would have to let go and learn from the past, work hard in the present, with a pinch of luck, then only one will prosper in the future. The future maybe the all-unknown, yet, we can still try and make the best out of it right? Lets work hard together, for a better tomorrow for all!

All I can say now is, live our lives to the fullest. Do things you really want to do, don't waste even a second to be sad. Be happy always. "Smile for the ones that cared about you, Never cry, for those that hurt you". Learn to learn from the past, work in the present and work for the future. Happiness will be there=]

"Sing, like noone's listening,
Dance, like noone's watching,
Work, like you don't need the money,
Give, like you expect nothing in return,

Live, like there's heaven on earth,

Love, like you'll never get hurt,

Party, like there's no TOMORROW."

修养

说到修养，相信多数人看到这样的标题，都会想：“又是一个自命清高的家伙”。然而，我决定还是把我心里的话写出来。我相信在别人眼里的我，不是真正的我。也只有我，才最认识我。 这句话要送给我的两位朋友：“相信你自己，不管在别人眼里你是怎样的人，只要做好自己，就好了，对自己有信心！”

修养嘛，我也不是什么圣人，时不时也会爆几句粗口。不过，再想想，现在的青年（男）有几个是不骂粗口的呢？我觉得是一定有的，差别是在多少而已。我昨天也开玩笑式地和我朋友说：“不骂粗口的男生，原因只有两个：一，他装模作样。 二，他是同性恋。哈哈。。 我是这样说，但我知道，不骂粗口的男生是有的，不过，真的是寥寥而已。

我这里说的修养，其实是给那些动不动就不爽你，不爽他的那些人看的。人在这世界里，都是互相帮忙的。有事就我帮帮你，你帮帮我，事情很容易就解决了。对我来说，只要那人没欺人太甚，我都可以置之不理。当然，更有修养的人，他们能去劝解，能说服他。我还做不到。我可以原谅他们，凡事说：“随便啦，人不犯我，我不犯人”，原因是我在佛光山学到的：“给人欢喜，给人希望，给人方便”可能写次序有颠倒，但最重要的是它带出的意思嘛。对？我虽然随便，但我是绝对不会轻易让人爬到我头上的=]

其实，为什么要不爽他人呢？是于事无补的。你再不爽他，他还是一样嘛。对于有些变态来说，你越不爽他，他越开心，说不定还变本加厉呢！忘了哪位前辈说过“生气别人，是那他人的过错来惩罚自己”本人觉得这句话是该常常带在心里的，对我只有利而无弊=] 希望大家能发发善心，不爽他们不如改变他们=]

“不爽他人，是自己修养不够”
也是忘了哪位前辈说的。嘻><

The Beast

For a long time, the beast has keep itself invisible. Its as if, the beast got tamed, not able to harm anyone. For awhile there, I thought peace had finally made its way through my doorstep. Yet, I was wrong. In fact, I AM wrong.

I don't know about others, but since I can remember, there's a beast in my heart, being part of me. Every now and then, when the cage forces its way too tightly around the beast, the beast would break free and cause havoc around. People that really know me, knows what I am talking about. The beast did a lot of damage that would scar my past forever. Most of it only my family knows, I've kept it a secret for a long time.

Then, she appeared in my life. She's perfect in every way, almost too perfect. She even calmed, tamed the beast. Although, in the beginning of our story, the beast tried its very best to fight back. Yet, after some time, the beast was conquered. For a long time, everything went so right, so peaceful. Except for a few minor outbreaks. I thought, she is the one. She is the one who can take me for who I am. But, recently, she left. Even she can't stand me=[. Its a sad sight, but I moved on. Let the past remain to be the past. But, what I don't know is, the worst consequence is coming my way.

Tonight, I felt the beast again. Tonight, she isn't there for me. Tonight, I am alone. I felt its rage, I felt its desire for chaos. I went out, breathed in the cool soothing air, have a nice stroll in the night. I reached home, all's fine. But then, I got worried, what if this happens again? but in a much larger scale like last time? I don't wanna hurt the people I love and care about. Maybe, I'll have to stay away, until I solve this.

Guys, please do forgive me for what I have done or what I'm going to do=='' For I have no guarantee. At the mean time, I will try my best to control the beast in me.

Special thanks to Choong Pei Ying, for being by my side when I needed you, you've helped a lot. Thanks my true friend=]

"A true danger--Anger"

Music

Music started to set foot in my life since.... Well.. I seriously don't have an answer to that..Music has always been there for me=] like a best friend. In fact, music is like the remedy of my soul. I can't imagine the days without music by my side. Ah heck! Music is right beside me right now=]

I have to thank my parents for my love in music. Since young, me and my brothers fell in love with music. I can still remember us literally dancing along the music in our living room when our parents aren't home. That's a sight, that can make me smile even now. The singer was Kenny Rogers, a country singer. Jacky Cheung, Andy Lau and Kenny Rogers are the "first" singers who really bring me into the music world. I can really sing along with them, without knowing the meaning of the lyrics. By that time, I didn't know how to read and write even. Since then, I sang through all my 19 years. And, although I don't sing well, I have to quote my sister for this. "You singing sounds like someone butchering a chicken" ==.I still sang. I think that made my point of how much I love singing==

Music, can really be the remedy of my soul. When stressed or frustrated, there's nothing a little bit of Mozart, Beethoven and Chopan can't cure=]. Sometimes, I feel like there's a whole new world in these music, like, the music is bringing me through someone's life, letting me see the whole story through my ears=] When there's time, I will put some of my playlists in my blog to share it with you all=]. I don't need you all to like it as I do. I understand everyone has his/her own interests in music. =]

Guys and girls, please, if you have any good music, please share=]. As I will share my music here too=] Just that I am sorry it can't be any time in the recent. I'm quite busy nowadays, also means that I can't write that much anymore. Hope you guys won't forget to come visit always=]

"Music---The remedy of souls"

关系

Firstly, to my friends who do not understand mandarin, apologies.. But if you wan a translated copy, feel free to tell me anytime=]

沟通，信任，在任何关系里是个不可缺乏的元素。无论友情，亲情，爱情，只要信任与沟通不存在，关系也会紧接着地被磨灭。

我的一生中，有多少关系是因为缺乏沟通而逐渐地失去联系，我已数不清。从好朋友转化为朋友，又从朋友转变成泛泛之交。。从之前的无话不说，演变成见面才点点头的“朋友”。呜呼哀哉！ 信任，缺乏信任，就会造成误会，误会没处理好，就请大家保重保重。说了这么多，在这方面我也是。我还是丈八金刚，摸不着脑啊！ 有何赐教？嘿嘿=]

就连进了大学，这种悲剧还是继续发生着，同样是室友，住在同一个屋檐下，却无法达成一个好的生活圈子。有些人就是不退步，满口都是人权，我有权力这个，我有权力那个的。想想，是的，政府规定你是有权力这么做。但，你知不知道，给予你这个权力的用意在哪？是为了不让你受欺侮！而不是让你，所谓的“有的用就用”的心态去处理的。人，是群体动物，无论是谁都要参与社交的。沟通与信任在这个时候便派上了用场。权力，有那么重要吗？有比你和朋友们之间的感情最重要吗？有事，不就是你退一步，我退一步，大家坐下来慢慢商讨嘛？又何必咄咄逼人？沟通有那么难吗？

说说亲情吧！就说说我吧。。我也不是什么好榜样，我与我老爸，甚少联系，在家里，我们都视而不见，其中原因嘛。就家丑不可外扬吧! 就连我要进大学的那一天，开口要求他在我到马六甲。他的反应的。嘿嘿。一如往常吧。那是我几年来对他说出的几句话呢。。意想不到的是，就在马六甲路上，我哥的电话响起了（我老爸没我电话号码），那封信息（想知道私底下问我，我觉得可以让你知道，自然会说）简直让我热泪些些夺眶啊！就是我这斯不服输的心态没让那泪掉出来。沟通，那么难吗？ 信任我就满好运的。我这家人都互相信任=]

最后，就是爱情了。在这方面，我不是什么专家，总是让我另一半落泪。 就连最近，3年的感情就这样没了。原因，不详，我想，我想，应该离不开这两个因素吧！ 这方面，还需要大家多多发表意见=] 我只能说一对情侣，沟通是固然，也要在沟通的当儿建下稳固的信任。对我来说，刚开始的时期是最艰难的。毕竟，你我才刚刚要深一层地认识对方，要有个巩固的信任是蛮难的。（再次提醒，这是我个人意见）沟通，男人和女人想法多多少少都有差别。多告诉她/他，你想要的是什么，还是我个人意见，女人心还真的是海底针啊。这方面就请大家多多赐教=] 小弟先谢过啦 =]

关系是人之间的桥梁。还有请大家好好珍惜身边的人，事，物啊！