简单。道理

这是我从一个朋友的部落格看到的。。她说得实在太好了。得到她的允许后，马上就“偷”了过来。转载处在文章底。=]]]

人，是不是得到越多，就会越贪心？

人，总是有着无穷无尽的要求。

但，失去时，却不会回想自己之前是多么的幸福，拥有的又有多少。

只会成天埋怨。

拥有时，不去珍惜；失去时，才来后悔。

有用吗？

这世界就是这样。

你付出得多，未必会有相同的回报；但，如果不付出，就肯定不会有回报。

上天是公平的。

想要实现无穷无尽的要求，就必须无止尽的付出。

虽然未必会得到想要的，但至少有付出过，有为自己的要求努力过。

绝对不要让人生留下遗憾。

要“拥有”就必先懂得接受“失去”。

有人说：吃多少，穿多少，注定的。一切事物冥冥之中自有定数。

但也有人说：人定胜天。

我相信人定胜天，同样也相信一切事物冥冥之中自有定数。

当一切还没有结果时，不能乱下定论，不能说放弃就放弃，没试过又怎知道不可能呢？

但，当一切成了定局，我也不强求，因为有些事情不是强求就能重新来过。

所以我不强求，不奢望，不勉强。

我不需要富裕的生活，不需要很多朋友，不需要太多的关心，也不需要太多的疼爱。

小康之家，也能过得很好；知心朋友一个就足够；适当的关心和疼爱足以让我感到窝心。

只要我感觉到幸福，心里有一丝丝的温暖，就已经足够了。

“批评”，不一定是坏事。

我们不是上帝。

人人都有缺点，都有做错事的时候，所以难免会受到别人的批评。

批评是压力也是动力，更是一种另类的关爱，关键在于你怎么去调整好对待批评的心态。

许多人会因为别人的批评，生气，甚至会觉得别人凭什么批评自己。

但，当你静下心想想，如果不是别人的批评，你怎会认识错误，吸取教训，改掉毛病。

如果别人不关心你，就不会批评你，就会让你一直错下去。

**但如果有些人，嘴巴上说是接受你的批评，但从不实行，那你就让他自己去面对吧。

毕竟人生是他的，他要怎么决定，你也管不了那么多，或许有天当他清楚知道事情的严重性，就会觉悟吧。**

“相信”

你身边有能让你完全相信的人吗？

相信一个人可以很难也可以很容易。

只是你愿不愿意。

在爱情方面，很多人都不相信对方。

当你问他们为什么时，他们多数会说：因为之前被伤害过，被骗过，所以很难再去相信别人。其实说白了，这也只是一个借口。

既然选择在一起，就应该信任对方。

“他/她”，是你自己选的。

就算以后有什么变数，你也要自己承担。

你不能怨，因为没有人逼你一定要做这个选择。

转载自：kikiho1717.blogspot.com 希望大家去看看。还真不错

开[心]则为智慧

人生，最终的目的在哪？相信大家的看法，观点都不同。而我，是为了得到快乐，在那得到最终快乐的旅途中，当然，我追求的也是智慧。这也是我开着部落格的其中几个原因。这篇呢，是写给我三个朋友的，希望他们看了，会对自己的近况加以改善。

人，总是对自己会有一层保护，害怕自己受伤，也害怕自己被说是错的。往往，就是因为这点，而丧失了许多学习的机会。对！人是应该自卫。不过，过度的保护自己会让自己失去这世界的精彩。若人能慢慢放下自己的保护层，学习适量的吸取他人的意见，那，可真是人生的一大智慧啊！这就是所谓的开心。尚若一个人的心是封闭的，试问，再多的知识学问，该从何渗透？试试适时地把信敞开，听听别人的话语吧！也许，他人所说的未必是对的，但当中也一定有他的理所在，试着去了解其中的道理，肯定，会获益不少。

害怕错误，也是得到智慧的一大绊脚石。人尚若一生都活在这无谓的恐惧中，那人生还有什么意义。错误，又何惧之有？错误，只不过是人们认为难以接受的一项事实啊。只要学会接受，那，从中我们都可以得到不少的好处啊！放开所谓的恐惧，去学习吧！我对错误，失败的看法，只有一个：“伤心，难免，早日看透，从中学习，只许错一次，没第二次！也尽量弥补！”所以呢，我觉得能够尝尝失败的滋味是件幸福的事。总好过没机会学习。把每次错误都当成宝贵的经验，不就好了？我用用英语的一句话：“what doesn'tkill you will only make you stronger"这话也有它的道理的。失败的越多，只要肯从中学，你，一定会变得更好！

最后，我只想为大家带来最后一个重点。心开了，想开了，学习了，当然得应用在生活中。别给自己任何借口，重复“任何借口”！我败了！败在这儿，我只希望大家能从我的失误中学习！别了！ “心开则意开，意开则皆开！”

Contentment

An afternoon at Tzu Ji gave me this inspiration for this topic. I sat down, in a quite, relaxing room, having a tea, which had a really interesting name: contentment tea, along with other teas with great names. Lol.

People, often bow under a certain failure, greed. Greed, when in control, would help people to move up in life. In contrary, excessive greed will bring nothing but malevolence. In a Chinese saying, *direct translation":"when a man's heart is not satisfied, a snake can swallow an elephant". This saying is quite popular among the Chinese in Malaysia, reminding people always, to be content. Yet, people always overlook what is in front of them and tend to look into the things out of their reach and hoping greedily for it to come nearer. So, even with the saying always in mind, people tend to forget what it really means.

In life, people seldom appreciate for what they already have in hand. Most of the time, people tend to crave for something which they cannot get and/or far from reach. Most of the time, people tend to forget the one who gave his true heart, to love truly. Most of the time, people tend to go for others he cannot get, even if the one he is chasing after isn't that good after all.

Contentment is good. But, overdoing it can be a bad thing. "Over-content" will lead to unmotivated minds. One should be content of what he has, yet, he should work hard for achieve better in life. Yet, work hard doesn't mean one should always work and neglect other aspects of life. In my opinion, one would only really prosper in life by finding the balance in everything.=]

I, am a student in life. I learn, mostly from mistakes. In this case, I am still trying to come out of the quicksand I got myself in and hope I can learn something from it. I'm sorry I can't say much about this topic. As, I myself am still suffering from the effects of it too. I just hope that, one day, I can look back and say:"I was so stupid back then". By then, I would know, I've really learned. Saying all these, I still appreciate for what I have. I mean, what I have now might not be what I have in mind, but its still good. At least better than what I expect to be worst.

I always believe that, thinking positively will help solve my problem. Thinking positively helps me a lot in being balanced in the contentment and greed scale. I think positively when in trouble, I strike for more when in a good condition. Opinions guys? Am i doing right?=]

"Contentment, humble guide of life"

Of secret and lies

What is a secret but a secret revealed? What is the truth but a probably-well-covered-lie? Haha, I chose to not worry about a statement, a happening to be true or otherwise. What good is it for us to worry about the unknown anyway? Experience, for me, is the key of knowing the truth. Don't worry, experience, even if it means the truth would hurt you, at least we will learn from it and grow. "What doesn't kill you only make you stronger"

For me, and I think for most of you also, I would rather getting the truth from the person involved( however horrible it is) than to find out myself someday. If you are thinking of lying for the rest of your life, covering the truth from the ones you love, I can tell you this, you're making the biggest mistake. Noone, I repeat noone can lie forever, the truth will find its way out sooner or later. In addition, the longer you lie, the longer the guilt of lying will haunt you, unless, you have no soul to take account for. "No man has a good enough memory to make a successful liar----Abraham Lincoln". Take note of this before thinking to lie forever.

To forgive, yes, there's always forgiveness for almost everything(for me at least). But, I rarely forgive a lie, I deeply despise lies. Unless, the person involved come clean, that is very forgivable. At least, the person learned to be honest, never too late to change. To be frank, I respect that, not everyone has the guts to confess.

I don't understand why some people like to have secrets all inside oneself, doesn't it feel like its a sleeping volcano going to explode any second. I for one, hate that feeling, I live my life by one rule:"To do what I want, when I want, not opposing to law or morality". If it means covering the truth or lying, that is just who I really am, means I am just showing an illusion to everybody. How bad am I till I need to create an illusion to fool everyone? Come on guys, I am here, come know me, I have nothing to be ashamed about.

People who would lie and be dishonest for their own interest, well, these are the people I truly hate. Not to mention selfish, inconsiderate but most of all, fiendish! We're civilized beings, what differentiates us from other beings but just mere morality. Yes, in the world, its the survival of the fittest, but please let it be a fair fight. Don't be an animal, animals know no morality. Yet, animals living in herds help each other without intentions. We, as the "superior beings", cannot even compare to the animals in this? Be civilized, help the needy, not back stabbing and lie to hurt others to gain interest. Be advised to you-know-I-am-talking-about-you's, human are social animals, we need each other to survive, think about that before you start gaining interest from others' grief.

Confession, I admit I lied in my life, in fact, I still lie and I will lie. I believe everyone lies, yet, depending on the situation and the lie's effect. I seldom lie, rarely in fact. But when necessary, I will still lie. Example, promises, when I promise someone to uphold his name or whatever, I will lie when another guy insist on knowing after I told him its concerning other's privacy. I wont break a promise to be truthful. Its very hard to judge when it is a suitable time to lie. Yet, just try our best not to hurt anyone in the process of it. It is not inevitable, so, we can try, not to lie. Conclusion, avoid lying whenever possible, it should be saved as a last resort and when really necessary.

"Lies may get you ahead in the world, but you may never get back"
Its something like that, not sure, forgot where I heard it also.==

雨天

好一个雨天！ 天~你太眷顾我了。。=]

哈哈。。今晚来个关于我近来的故事吧~

最近，心情都比较烦燥，问题多多，虽然多数都解决了，但在心里总是挥扇不去。一个雨天，帮助了我不少啊！

话说，今晚，约了我的钟佩盈大哥吃晚餐,就走到了他住处楼下，离我家大概20分钟路程吧！开开心心到了，去了我一直以来都不会去吃的地方。整个晚上是充满了笑声啊~在我最不开心的时候，你总是能让我笑笑。谢啦老兄！

吃罢，只见老天竟下着倾盆大雨啊～！　我心只想，这下完了，我一星期的衣还没收啊！！反正，我老兄也还没吃，就到另一个地点吃吃了。以我老兄的吃饭速度，吃完了雨还没停，这雨还真算长命了！嘿嘿！

看看时间，球赛是看不成了，就去买汉堡吃（刚刚那餐十份都不够我吃），天还是下着雨，汉堡也等了快一小时。这时间还真对不起我老兄，肚子不舒服还陪着我，让我笑了整夜。终于，我吃了汉堡，老兄也回家了。此时，天还是下着雨。@@

老兄回家了，我看看天，想想，我也好久没淋雨了，还蛮想念那感觉的（其实也盼望了很久，只是没借口淋而已）。于是，拿起了刚刚汉堡的小塑料袋，把电话，皮包都放了进去，（塑料袋是干净的）打了个结。把书包里的小电脑，用刚刚帮老兄拿的不知名的杂志好好包了一层，就踏上了“不归路”。哈哈！

这里还要特别感谢某人，她不介意我湿透的身子要来载回家，还蛮开心，感动的。＝］不过害你差点车祸真是万分歉意＝［　其实，我真的不想弄脏你车，也不想麻烦你，也想在雨中漫步＝］对不起啦，又谢啦＝］］

啊！那一点一滴的雨，打在我身上，感觉真是妙。我还真是悠哉游哉，一步一步慢慢踏叻！感觉，每一滴，都在为我把那就快把头撑爆的烦恼，一点一点地洗去。走在此时不可能有其他路人的街上，感觉好自在，竟慢慢地哼起，不，唱起歌来！那时真得好开心。只不过，在路上，竟有一辆车快速经过，喷得我下半身都湿透了。那人竟一点恻隐之心都没，手也不招一下。不过，我也马上原谅了他，就当他在配合大雨，帮我洗脱烦恼吧＝］。

最后，到家了，当然健康也重要，马上就洗了澡。回到了我的小电脑面前，写着这篇文章了。哈哈哈哈哈哈！！　还真是开心的一个晚上！＝］

The Choice

Again, this post will be no help, only the people involved would understand what I wrote. Sorry about all these but its a big part of my life. Useful posts will come up next=]

*Tick Tock Tick Tock*

The sound of my watch grow extensively loud today, a big choice is upon me, a junction in front of me, both leading to an unknown future. The ticking is like a constant reminder to me, time is the essence. I know, when the choice is made, there will be no turning back, no regrets. I admit, its been a real burden, occupying my mind each and everyday. But now, the choice will be made, and it is made.

The sound of my watch later got overwhelmed by the sound of my heartbeat, staring blankly at my computer, fingers on top of "ENTER", mind shrouded, thinking: " Is this what I want? There will be no guarantee what happens next will be in my favor." Still unsure, a clear voice spoke: "The path you chose may not be the life you wanted, but you are sure that the life you have now is not what you wanted." So, I hit "ENTER". There goes my choice, hope is the only thing I can depend on right now.

I am sure, more rumors about me will rise and spread. I can only take that as a part of my punishment, for hurting someone, or a kind of retribution, although its far from enough, at least, its something for me to feel less guilty about. Rumors about me I don't care that much, I know what I am doing and What I will be facing. I've made a choice, the consequences had already gone through my considerations. What I am worried about is the consequences that will fall upon others with my choice. Someone would end up getting hurt, another might suffer from more rumors. Therefore, I shall take my own responsibility for my choice. Better or worse, its my choice, its the burden of the consequences I shall bear.

I am no saint and I never will be. I've been selfish and more by making this choice. I am not my normal self by making this choice. Normally, I would play safe, knowing there's no guarantee by choosing this, I would not go for it. But, this time, something about this choice had made me abandon my principles, my guidelines for safety. I decided to risk everything, to give up what I have in hand, to go for the uncertain future of this choice. Again, all I can do now is hope for the best.

I never regret the times I shared, and I never will. Its just that time goes by, after all those incidents, it changed me. I loved, I cried and I am tired of all those. Don't worry, it is not the other choice that made me give up the other. Its just that, I am tired. Who knows what will happen next? Might be better, might be worse. But, I will keep one sentence in mind, by my friend Mr. Jeremy Lim:" Comparison is the worst a man can do. " Never compare the choices and appreciate for whatever I will get.

This is the end. This is also the beginning of a whole new chapter of my life. Thanks my friends for being there for me, again. Mr.act cute king, Mr.love saint, Mr.sorry,Mr.probation and Ms.cat. You guys gave me opinions when I am in need. Thanks.

*The end of one is the beginning of another"

Rumors

To think one could assume he/she knows the a person just by hearing some opinions from others, it just doesn't make sense. To know a person, without really spending time with the person, just by mere words, now, that's ridiculous.

These "opinions from others" may just be words, but bare in mind, words sometimes can prove to more powerful than any weaponry, yet, action speak louder than words. So, my friends, to really know a person, I think, one should really spend time with the person, get to know him. And, I find out that most of the time, the person's actions does speak louder than the words(rumors).

To judge a person, I'd say NEVER judge a person. My brother once told me:" Never be the judge of others, you are not him". Although he told me not in this circumstance, yet, I can still put it in use in my daily life. Yes, who are we to judge them? Are you perfect? Nobody is, so, stop being a hypocrite and start making yourself a better person. Sometimes I wonder, people can talk bad about others all the time, when can they talk bad about themselves? Sometimes, looking in a mirror often doesn't mean that you're narcissistic, look in a mirror to know who you are, both good and bad.

Truth is, I myself, have heard a lot of rumors regarding me. Surprisingly, I didn't get mad, not one bit. Some of the rumors are so bizarre, that I almost believed it myself. I would think, am I really like what they are describing me? Then, I laughed. I find this all very amusing. To think that some stranger I never talked to would know so much about me, in fact, judging on the words he used, know me more than I know myself. Now, that is funny! Now, to all rumor-givers, please forward your comments about me to me. Don't worry, I won't bite =P.

I know there are a lot of rumors about me going on outside, never good ones. Yet, I've learned not to care that much about what people think about me. I would do things I want to, not offending morality, not against the law, and what I think is right. My mom told me once (translation from mandarin) : " Their mouth is born theirs, whatever they wanna say, let them, we just do our part." That brings me to this, if we spend most of our time worrying about what people think of us, won't we be the puppets of their will, indirectly? Be yourself always, take advice from others, wisely and I think a lot of things will go better.

I admit, sometimes a little bit of comment about others in a form of a rumor can be funny. Yet, I always leave the comments at the table. I mean we had our laughs, who knows for real it is true or not, so just leave it there. I can't stop more rumors from spreading but I'll do my part as to stop any rumor that reached me. I bear them in mind, and I search for the truth myself. Nothing is more assuring than what I experienced myself. =]

Lastly, even if you trust someone completely, and he tells you some rumor about a person, would you still believe it? For me, I won't. As, there're too many uncertainties. Example, he might be seeing things from a different point of view, he might hear things from others and maybe he just hates him=]. But, when a guy hates the other, it doesn't mean that I must hate the other guy too. Approach the other guy, know him for yourself, nothing is more assuring than being able to know him yourself.

Guys, stop rumors. We are still human beings, we are not perfect. Look in a mirror and improve ourselves before we comment about others.=]

"Words, they kill. Words, they heal"

Holiday

Holiday mode...off for 1 weeks=P

But then, a little update about my life. Wow! This will be short=P

Well, lets start with my relationship status, as many of my friends would wan to know. Hmm...It started really complicated, things got real messy, I have to make a choice which I won't repeat a second time in my life. Its torture. For those who dont understand how it feels, they would say I am lucky. Well, I hereby say that its not all fun and games, its really mental torture. Then, decision made, things got simpler. We were together again, we were happy, thought everything has been settled. Yet, problems are still there. Well, might as well try to solve it=D.

Other than my relationship problem, others seem to go well. I am having my holiday a lot better than I thought. For your information, I thought I would spend at least half of my holidays in front of the computer. Luckily, I didn't. Thanks to all my friends, and of course my family. My appetite seems to be back also.=] It has been a nightmare for me since I cant what I want. My stomach seemed to be protesting against me for the past few weeks. At least now I'm back, eating all along the way! hahaha^^

One more thing, something came in mind, rumors. About this, this will be the next post. For now, holiday!!=D

Ok.. that's a little bit update about my life, more "useful" posts will come after these 1 week of holidays. *have to admit I'm quite lazy* See you guys in 1 week=]

The Past,The Present and The Future

We live in the Present,we look into the past and we look upon the future. "Whats today but yesterday's tomorrow?" It took me awhile to understand the message this sentence truly brings. Well, let me know your opinion, for I am not sure yet=]

Yesterday, The Past. For a long while, when I was 15, I was living in my past, being stuck in a mud of my own confusions. Then, I had a breakthrough. Why should I live in my past? It doesn't do me any good, nor does it solve anything. It barely heals, instead it hurts more. Why did I waste my time? Cause I wasn't mature enough to understand this: My heart is filled with the past I cant move on and enjoy "the GIFT",the present, or even to work for my all-so-promising future. There's no help crying over split milk. So, why don't we figure something out to clean the mess? So, I moved on. I think this helped me through my recent happening. I am not saying we should forget our past. I am saying, we should look into the past, and learn from the mistakes we made. I am saying, we should keep all the laughters, the memories in our hearts, think back, and laugh/smile again=]

Today,the Gift, few can really appreciate a gift from others. It makes sense, as few can really appreciate the Present. Most people tend to always hope for the future or moping around the past. Today, is a Gift, use it wisely, to clean the mess you made or got yourself into in the past. Use it wisely, to work for the future you always dream about. Thats why its a Gift, for me, its a gift of--chance! Most people took the Gift for granted, not-knowing how to appreciate it. I, for one, has thrown away too many of this Gift, blankly hoping things would just happen in my way. Appreciate what you have now, you'll never take back what you did, so, work to make it up. Appreciate what you have now, you'll never know what will happen in the future, so, work your best for a better future=]

Tomorrow, the Mysterious. Many may look upon for it full of expectations. BUT, be warned, with more expectations, the heavier the fall may be, IF, the future doesn't meet. Yet, If the future meets your expectations, surely, you will be ecstatic about it. So, to make your expectations be fulfilled, work for it, don't wait for it. The Future, would be the hardest to achieve great success as one would have to let go and learn from the past, work hard in the present, with a pinch of luck, then only one will prosper in the future. The future maybe the all-unknown, yet, we can still try and make the best out of it right? Lets work hard together, for a better tomorrow for all!

All I can say now is, live our lives to the fullest. Do things you really want to do, don't waste even a second to be sad. Be happy always. "Smile for the ones that cared about you, Never cry, for those that hurt you". Learn to learn from the past, work in the present and work for the future. Happiness will be there=]

"Sing, like noone's listening,
Dance, like noone's watching,
Work, like you don't need the money,
Give, like you expect nothing in return,

Live, like there's heaven on earth,

Love, like you'll never get hurt,

Party, like there's no TOMORROW."

修养

说到修养，相信多数人看到这样的标题，都会想：“又是一个自命清高的家伙”。然而，我决定还是把我心里的话写出来。我相信在别人眼里的我，不是真正的我。也只有我，才最认识我。 这句话要送给我的两位朋友：“相信你自己，不管在别人眼里你是怎样的人，只要做好自己，就好了，对自己有信心！”

修养嘛，我也不是什么圣人，时不时也会爆几句粗口。不过，再想想，现在的青年（男）有几个是不骂粗口的呢？我觉得是一定有的，差别是在多少而已。我昨天也开玩笑式地和我朋友说：“不骂粗口的男生，原因只有两个：一，他装模作样。 二，他是同性恋。哈哈。。 我是这样说，但我知道，不骂粗口的男生是有的，不过，真的是寥寥而已。

我这里说的修养，其实是给那些动不动就不爽你，不爽他的那些人看的。人在这世界里，都是互相帮忙的。有事就我帮帮你，你帮帮我，事情很容易就解决了。对我来说，只要那人没欺人太甚，我都可以置之不理。当然，更有修养的人，他们能去劝解，能说服他。我还做不到。我可以原谅他们，凡事说：“随便啦，人不犯我，我不犯人”，原因是我在佛光山学到的：“给人欢喜，给人希望，给人方便”可能写次序有颠倒，但最重要的是它带出的意思嘛。对？我虽然随便，但我是绝对不会轻易让人爬到我头上的=]

其实，为什么要不爽他人呢？是于事无补的。你再不爽他，他还是一样嘛。对于有些变态来说，你越不爽他，他越开心，说不定还变本加厉呢！忘了哪位前辈说过“生气别人，是那他人的过错来惩罚自己”本人觉得这句话是该常常带在心里的，对我只有利而无弊=] 希望大家能发发善心，不爽他们不如改变他们=]

“不爽他人，是自己修养不够”
也是忘了哪位前辈说的。嘻><

The Beast

For a long time, the beast has keep itself invisible. Its as if, the beast got tamed, not able to harm anyone. For awhile there, I thought peace had finally made its way through my doorstep. Yet, I was wrong. In fact, I AM wrong.

I don't know about others, but since I can remember, there's a beast in my heart, being part of me. Every now and then, when the cage forces its way too tightly around the beast, the beast would break free and cause havoc around. People that really know me, knows what I am talking about. The beast did a lot of damage that would scar my past forever. Most of it only my family knows, I've kept it a secret for a long time.

Then, she appeared in my life. She's perfect in every way, almost too perfect. She even calmed, tamed the beast. Although, in the beginning of our story, the beast tried its very best to fight back. Yet, after some time, the beast was conquered. For a long time, everything went so right, so peaceful. Except for a few minor outbreaks. I thought, she is the one. She is the one who can take me for who I am. But, recently, she left. Even she can't stand me=[. Its a sad sight, but I moved on. Let the past remain to be the past. But, what I don't know is, the worst consequence is coming my way.

Tonight, I felt the beast again. Tonight, she isn't there for me. Tonight, I am alone. I felt its rage, I felt its desire for chaos. I went out, breathed in the cool soothing air, have a nice stroll in the night. I reached home, all's fine. But then, I got worried, what if this happens again? but in a much larger scale like last time? I don't wanna hurt the people I love and care about. Maybe, I'll have to stay away, until I solve this.

Guys, please do forgive me for what I have done or what I'm going to do=='' For I have no guarantee. At the mean time, I will try my best to control the beast in me.

Special thanks to Choong Pei Ying, for being by my side when I needed you, you've helped a lot. Thanks my true friend=]

"A true danger--Anger"

Music

Music started to set foot in my life since.... Well.. I seriously don't have an answer to that..Music has always been there for me=] like a best friend. In fact, music is like the remedy of my soul. I can't imagine the days without music by my side. Ah heck! Music is right beside me right now=]

I have to thank my parents for my love in music. Since young, me and my brothers fell in love with music. I can still remember us literally dancing along the music in our living room when our parents aren't home. That's a sight, that can make me smile even now. The singer was Kenny Rogers, a country singer. Jacky Cheung, Andy Lau and Kenny Rogers are the "first" singers who really bring me into the music world. I can really sing along with them, without knowing the meaning of the lyrics. By that time, I didn't know how to read and write even. Since then, I sang through all my 19 years. And, although I don't sing well, I have to quote my sister for this. "You singing sounds like someone butchering a chicken" ==.I still sang. I think that made my point of how much I love singing==

Music, can really be the remedy of my soul. When stressed or frustrated, there's nothing a little bit of Mozart, Beethoven and Chopan can't cure=]. Sometimes, I feel like there's a whole new world in these music, like, the music is bringing me through someone's life, letting me see the whole story through my ears=] When there's time, I will put some of my playlists in my blog to share it with you all=]. I don't need you all to like it as I do. I understand everyone has his/her own interests in music. =]

Guys and girls, please, if you have any good music, please share=]. As I will share my music here too=] Just that I am sorry it can't be any time in the recent. I'm quite busy nowadays, also means that I can't write that much anymore. Hope you guys won't forget to come visit always=]

"Music---The remedy of souls"

关系

Firstly, to my friends who do not understand mandarin, apologies.. But if you wan a translated copy, feel free to tell me anytime=]

沟通，信任，在任何关系里是个不可缺乏的元素。无论友情，亲情，爱情，只要信任与沟通不存在，关系也会紧接着地被磨灭。

我的一生中，有多少关系是因为缺乏沟通而逐渐地失去联系，我已数不清。从好朋友转化为朋友，又从朋友转变成泛泛之交。。从之前的无话不说，演变成见面才点点头的“朋友”。呜呼哀哉！ 信任，缺乏信任，就会造成误会，误会没处理好，就请大家保重保重。说了这么多，在这方面我也是。我还是丈八金刚，摸不着脑啊！ 有何赐教？嘿嘿=]

就连进了大学，这种悲剧还是继续发生着，同样是室友，住在同一个屋檐下，却无法达成一个好的生活圈子。有些人就是不退步，满口都是人权，我有权力这个，我有权力那个的。想想，是的，政府规定你是有权力这么做。但，你知不知道，给予你这个权力的用意在哪？是为了不让你受欺侮！而不是让你，所谓的“有的用就用”的心态去处理的。人，是群体动物，无论是谁都要参与社交的。沟通与信任在这个时候便派上了用场。权力，有那么重要吗？有比你和朋友们之间的感情最重要吗？有事，不就是你退一步，我退一步，大家坐下来慢慢商讨嘛？又何必咄咄逼人？沟通有那么难吗？

说说亲情吧！就说说我吧。。我也不是什么好榜样，我与我老爸，甚少联系，在家里，我们都视而不见，其中原因嘛。就家丑不可外扬吧! 就连我要进大学的那一天，开口要求他在我到马六甲。他的反应的。嘿嘿。一如往常吧。那是我几年来对他说出的几句话呢。。意想不到的是，就在马六甲路上，我哥的电话响起了（我老爸没我电话号码），那封信息（想知道私底下问我，我觉得可以让你知道，自然会说）简直让我热泪些些夺眶啊！就是我这斯不服输的心态没让那泪掉出来。沟通，那么难吗？ 信任我就满好运的。我这家人都互相信任=]

最后，就是爱情了。在这方面，我不是什么专家，总是让我另一半落泪。 就连最近，3年的感情就这样没了。原因，不详，我想，我想，应该离不开这两个因素吧！ 这方面，还需要大家多多发表意见=] 我只能说一对情侣，沟通是固然，也要在沟通的当儿建下稳固的信任。对我来说，刚开始的时期是最艰难的。毕竟，你我才刚刚要深一层地认识对方，要有个巩固的信任是蛮难的。（再次提醒，这是我个人意见）沟通，男人和女人想法多多少少都有差别。多告诉她/他，你想要的是什么，还是我个人意见，女人心还真的是海底针啊。这方面就请大家多多赐教=] 小弟先谢过啦 =]

关系是人之间的桥梁。还有请大家好好珍惜身边的人，事，物啊！

Choices

Have you ever done anything that you've regretted? Making the wrong choices as they said? Well, for me, making the right choices is essential for people to lead a great life. And no choice is regrettable..=]

Define right choices?? It differs. Everyone has different goals in life, some say love, some say money, some say fame. For me, I say happiness.. I mean, isn't everything we're going after, somehow makes us happy when we reached the goal? I've learned this during a peace talk conference in Multimedia University. So, to make a right choice, one must first know his/her ultimate goal. Do as u please, as long as u don't hurt anyone in the process..I carry that in my heart whenever a choice is in hand.

Sacrifices may sometimes be necessary while making a choice. For a long time, I had been having trouble with this part, sacrifices. In fact, I still have problems with it now. When two options come in hand, both are equally valued to you, how can I make the "right sacrifice"? I oppose this trouble with just these mere thoughts: either side will make me happy, yet, which side would be happier if I chose them. Am i doing the right thing? Seeking help here from anyone, your advice will be truly appreciated=].

Recently, I fell more into this trouble, when I myself (for the first time) has become one of my options. Quite selfish if you ask me. Yet, I think, once in a while, a man has to do things on his own will=p. Am I right? I'm still struggling with the choice. Made a small step, regretting a little bit. Then it came to me, you can't feel regret for the choices you have made, if that choice is truly your desire at that time. So, I decided to go with my selfish choice and hope fate settles everything for me=P..

There's all for this topic. Post me some comments.
Don't get me wrong though, I am not trying to act like some noble. I am a human being, I make mistakes and I am still making them. Posting this to read your advices and comments so that we can become better people.. Together=]

"Don't seek fault, seek remedy."

A fresh start

This is the first blog post in my 19 years of life..Reasons why I start a blog despite all the "comments" I made?? There're a few actually..

First and foremost, I needed a place to write out my opinions unbiased and unafraid..In this world we're living in right now..nowhere is safe to sound our opinions out..then i thought..well.. a blog is better than nothing=].. so.. I am here..
Secondly, like my title implied.. A fresh start, I guess I just wanna try out new things in my life.. A fresh start, sounds nice ain't it? I'll just give it a try. Hope my enthusiasm stays..=]

Ahh~!! enough for my boring reasons to start a blog already.. I already did.. so.. do visit if u like my posts.. and don't visit if u don't... its that simple..=]